First Date Tips for Women Dating Women

If you are a woman dating a woman, there are some things you need to know about your first date. This is much like anyone going on a first date. However, you may feel like you have become an expert on “first dates.” Do you feel like you are always having first dates but less often having follow-up dates? Do you want to see a woman more than just once or twice in order to find out if she is right for you? Don’t beat yourself up thinking there is something wrong with you.
 
First, women are quite picky. They tend to know exactly what they want and they can spot it really quickly if they don’t think they’ve found it. We can be very critical and sometimes your nerves might be keeping you from making a good first impression. Or maybe the person you are dating is just nervous and judges you too harshly because she is also very nervous.
 
There are a lot of reasons why a first date can go badly but sometimes you set yourself up for failure by the way you enter the date. Here are some tips for first dates with women dating women.

First Date Tips and Guidelines

Before you go on your first date, here are some things to consider:

• Pre-date jitters: Are you relaxed? Pre-date jitters are to be expected but if you are overly nervous on your first date, you could give your date the wrong impression. Avoid drinking to try to calm the jitters. Instead, try relaxation exercises or deep breathing. You want to make sure you are alert and that your mood is not altered by substances.
• Feel the part: Are you wearing something that makes you feel good? You should dress the part by dressing confidently and appropriately for the situation. You want to feel comfortable and you don’t want to worry about your outfit while you are trying to get to know your date partner.
• Be real: Are you being yourself? One of the most important things you can do is be real with your date. Don’t’ try to pretend to be something that you’re not or who you think she wants you to be. Don’t be cocky or arrogant but be real and be yourself. She will appreciate your honesty.
• Know what to say: It can be tough to know what to say on a first date, especially if you’re feeling a bit nervous but when you plan what you’re going to say first, you can help keep the conversation flowing. Remember that you don’t want to get too serious your first date. Keep it light and friendly. You always want to be sure you give her a fair chance to chat as much as you are chatting back. Ask her questions and don’t monopolize the conversation.
• Know where to go: Your choice of venue could be very important for the date. You want it to be a place that you are both comfortable with, where you can have a good time but also where you can spend some time chatting and getting to know one another. If you go to one of your preferred hangouts, your friends and buddies might interrupt the date too much. A movie is always a nice choice but it doesn’t give you a chance to chat so you should add a dinner date before or after the movie so you can get to know one another a little better.
• Body language: Did you know that your body language says a lot about you? You may be sending the wrong impression to your date and not even know it. How do you sit? Are you slumped over? Are you leaning in to see what she has to say? Are you giving her your full attention? Your body language will give her the idea of how you are feeling on the date.
• Pay attention: Make sure you focus on your date, pay attention to what she is saying, her body language and her likes and dislikes. Don’t get so wrapped up in yourself and your jitters that you fail to read her signals or see the messages she is sending you. It’s likely she is nervous too and you just need to tune in, focus and make her feel appreciated. This is a sure fire way to get a second date.

First dates are all about getting to know the person and deciding if you want to go on a second date. If you’re not setting the right tone for your date then this might be why you are only getting first dates and never getting that second date that you desperately want.